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Childhood Sexual Violation’s: Societal Measuring Stick

Childhood Sexual Violation’s: Societal Measuring Stick

Sexual violation is soul violation. It is the only crime in which one's body gets broken into. If someone breaks into your house and goes through all of your personal things… you would want to move to a new house, in a new neighborhood… as far away from the crime...

True Love Rises out of Wisdom

True Love Rises out of Wisdom

Love… It’s a garbled word at best. We reach for what we see in the movies. Our mind longs for the ideas of the love within a family.  We look to our parents as an example of what relational love should look like. We measure the level of stability and balance in...

Mental Illness? Your Brilliance through the lens of fear?

Mental Illness? Your Brilliance through the lens of fear?

I really want to spend some energy around mental illness and what in many other cultures is defined as your Brilliance… Spiritual giftedness… Psychic abilities... Out of Body experiences... The distinction? Fear! Our culture focuses on the average and within that...

To be Human is to be Spiritual

To be Human is to be Spiritual

Beliefs that keep US small Something that's really on my heart as we move more deeply into this new paradigm is the weight of religion in many ways on our growth Spiritually.  Being human does not create separation... Seeing yourSelf as anything but a Spiritual...

No one can heal YOU but YOU!

No one can heal YOU but YOU!

I wanted to look at our idea of what true healing really means. To be clear... No one can heal you but YOU! So often I'm confronted by people that want to have a magic pill or a wave of a magic wand, right?  Like the idea of the knight in shining armor riding in...

The slippery slope between Watcher and Accomplice

The slippery slope between Watcher and Accomplice

How slippery is the slope between the Watcher and the Accomplice? Thank you so much for taking your moments to join me here today. I think that many times in our silence, we don't understand that we are, in truth, supporting the inflicted harm. That's not a thought we...

Nice is different than Kind.

Nice is different than Kind.

Here's a really big one, especially for the ladies out there. Nice is different than kind! Why do we say yes when we really want to say no? Not that this isn't a common thing for all humans, but I think it's very ingrained in woman to be accommodating, especially to...

Familial Allegiance to the Abuser is a THING!

Familial Allegiance to the Abuser is a THING!

Today I Really want to discuss something rarely talked about... Familial allegiance to the abuser. I watch the same scenario play out again and again… the family is in complete denial of the victim's experience.  Now what we need to digest here is that in that denial,...

Familial Loyalty to the Abuser Perpetuates Trauma

Familial Loyalty to the Abuser Perpetuates Trauma

Familial loyalty to the abuser perpetuates trauma and is the most extreme level of Victim Shaming there is! He's HURT! Familial loyalty to the abuser is an ongoing problem for so many of the world's people and perpetuates trauma for the victim. The lopsidedness of...

When does Forgiveness Negate Personal Responsibility? NEVER!

When does Forgiveness Negate Personal Responsibility? NEVER!

I really want to address this idea that if we are doing our inner work that suddenly the people in our lives are going to behave differently as well. As if the perspective of everyone you are struggling withs perspective will change with the wave of a magic wand. The...

Throw away the Bound~Are~We’s and find Freedom

Throw away the Bound~Are~We’s and find Freedom

In our world of chaos and dysfunction we are constantly being bombarded with talk of the need for boundaries… the need to create walls big and small. We must protect ourselves. We have to keep the toxic people out of our lives or build rules around our interactions...