Nice is different than Kind. - Cherie Doyen

Here’s a really big one, especially for the ladies out there. Nice is different than kind!

Why do we say yes when we really want to say no?

Not that this isn’t a common thing for all humans, but I think it’s very ingrained in woman to be accommodating, especially to man.

I hear it over and over again, women saying, yeah, I, I had sex with him last night. I really didn’t want to. Why did you? Oh, well I knew he wanted it so bad and I didn’t want to disappoint him. I felt bad.

OR… I went out with this guy the other day. I didn’t want to say yes but I didn’t want his feelings to be hurt. Or I stayed married to this man because he said he was gonna hurt himself. If I left.

We can’t do this guys.

Do you understand that saying yes when you really want to say no, it’s truly a lie and lies are never good for anyone, right? Because you are painting a picture for this individual that is not based in truth and what you’re giving you is a lack of importance. You are putting your wants and needs behind the needs of another.

YOU are IMPORTANT!

Nice is different than kind!

There’s a huge difference between being nice and being kind right. Being nice is doing something that we think we should do. Nine times out of 10 our thought words and actions are not in alignment.

We have regret around it.

We feel sacrifice around it.

Martyrdom is ours

Nice acts. They haunt us because they’re a lie. It’s like feeding somebody only the icing off of a cake and never getting into the cake.

We have to know that.

Kindness, on the other hand, most often it passes by.

We don’t even understand that we did anything extraordinary.

We just gave.

Regret is not ours.

We don’t feel sacrifice.

We don’t feel any sort of remorse or lack or martyrdom.

That’s kindness.

Nice is different than Kind!

As we move forward into wholeness and integrity, our goal is what we think, what we say and what we do come into alignment.

I know it feels uncomfortable, especially in the beginning, but coming into integrity and choosing what you want , is an exercise.

We all know you’re not making this choice to harm anyone.

This is about you and what you deserve. If you don’t respect your wants and needs how would can you expect anyone else to approach you with that honor.

I like to think of this kind of like, I feel about mom energy. We can give people what they want, or we can give people what they need. And most often what they need and what they want are two different things.

If somebody wants you and you’re not in alignment with that, how is that good for anyone? It’s not good for them. It’s not good for you. So step into that, it’s never a good choice.

It’s never a right minded choice to say yes, when we want to say no.

We are moving into a place of integrity.

We’re moving into a place of power.

With each step we are taking back choices.

It is your time to choose… Who you are, why you’re here, what is acceptable for YOU! ,

What do YOU want? What do YOU need.

You deserve that. And no, one’s going to give that to you until, you know.

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